Awareness is the key

Before I became a certified life coach, I often found myself mentally exhausted, with the accompanying “fog” that seemed to follow me everywhere and migraines that interrupted my life way too often.

Even if you’re not interested in my Find Peace in Parenting coaching program, I want to tell you how you can begin to climb out of the fog that seems to permeate when you’re worried about the choices your teenagers are making.

When I find my mind spinning out of control, I sit down for 5-10 minutes and just write whatever I’m thinking.  I don’t censor it.  I don’t judge it.  I just download all of my thoughts.  Just the process of getting it all out of my head seems to bring some relief.

Then, I look back over what I’ve written and decide what’s true and what’s not.  It’s easy for me to fall into the trap of believing that just because I’m thinking something, it must be true.  But as I’ve learned to become aware of just what is going on in my head I’ve realized I tell myself a lot of falsehoods ~ and they don’t help me in my situation.  Once I have the awareness, though, I can decide whether or not it’s something I want to keep thinking and believing.

If you’re tired of the fog that just complicates things as you parent your teen, I challenge you to take 5 minutes right now and write down everything you’re thinking about your situation.  Try not to write what you think you *should* be thinking.  Don’t worry about proper sentence structure or your handwriting.  Just write.

Then ask yourself if there are any lies on that piece of paper.  If there are, decide whether or not you are going to keep believing it.  It really is a choice.

If you find some thoughts you’d like to stop thinking but you’re having a hard time knowing how to get rid of them, email me at kelly@findpeaceinparenting.com and I’ll help you open up your mind to the possibilities.