What is a “mini-session”?

If you’re a Mormon mom whose son didn’t serve the mission you thought he would…

If you’d like to replace doubt and discouragement with faith and confidence…

If my Find Peace in Parenting blogs have resonated with you…

Then it’s time to schedule a mini-session to see if my coaching program is right for you!

During the mini-session I will coach you a little bit ~ which can be a valuable experience, especially if you’ve never been coached before ~ and then I’ll tell you the specifics of my coaching.  If you’re not interested ~ no worries ~ but you’ll still leave the mini-session with some empowering insights.

The actual mini-session will only take 20-30 minutes, happens via ZOOM (computer or phone ~ you choose), and is absolutely FREE.

So, what have you got to lose?  Only 30 minutes of your time if it turns out this isn’t right for you.  But, what could you gain?  A better relationship with your son who didn’t serve the mission you planned he would PLUS more confidence as an LDS woman.  SIGN UP NOW for YOUR mini-session.

What are you waiting for?!?  SCHEDULE YOUR MINI-SESSION NOW!

Not every YM should serve a mission

“Not every YM should serve a mission.”  Does that sound like heresy?  Am I just a disgruntled Latter-Day Saint mom who is lashing out against the Church?

Rest assured ~ I am a fully committed member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who whole-heartedly sustains the Prophet, serves diligently in my callings, and supports the many missionaries I know who are currently serving missions throughout the world.

Also know ~ I don’t dispute that President Spencer W. Kimball said, “Every worthy young man should fill a mission,” nor that every prophet since then has given the same counsel.

Yet, even though I have a testimony deeply rooted in my Savior, Jesus Christ, and I, without doubt, love and support the prophets of the restored Church, and I consecrate my time and talents to building up His kingdom ~ I also firmly believe not every young man should serve a mission.  Maybe it’s health reasons or anxiety or a lack of testimony that keeps some young men from serving missions.  Whatever the reason, this one-size-fits-all belief sends so many wonderful Latter-Day Saint moms down the path of doubt, disappointment, and despair. 

How do you show up ~ as a mom and as a daughter of God ~ when you’re coming from a place of fear?  How does it serve you to believe that every young man should serve a mission?  How does agency fit into all of this?

There are lots of “should’ s” in our Church (we should go to our meetings, we should do our visiting teaching, we should pay tithing).  None of us do them all perfectly, yet we sure beat ourselves up over this one when it doesn’t happen.

It doesn’t have to be this way.  You can have a better relationship with your son, even better than if he had served a mission.  You can have confidence in yourself as a Latter-Day Saint mom, even though your son isn’t serving.  You can show up in your LDS life from a place of faith, even if he’s not making the choices you thought he would.

“Not every YM should serve a mission.”  If you want to know how I can believe that and still be a strong, active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I can show you how.  Email me at kelly@findpeaceinparenting.com.

Where’s your mask?

You’ve probably heard it lots of times, especially if you’ve ever flown on an airplane:  “In the case of a loss of cabin pressure, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you….  If you are traveling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask first and then assist the other person…”

This advice seemed like common sense every time I heard it until… the first time I flew with my first baby.  Even when the flight attendant came and looked me in the eye to reiterate “put your mask on first, then help your child” I told her yes but, to be honest, I thought she was crazy.  How could I not put my precious baby first?

As ridiculous as it sounds, it took me a long time to realize that if I passed out I couldn’t do anything for my child.  The flight attendant was right ~ my mask had to come first.

It took me probably another decade to realize the principle here had far greater application than just in an airplane emergency.

As moms (especially Latter-Day Saint moms) we give so much of ourselves to our kids, making lots of sacrifices along the way, ensuring everyone and everything is taken care of ~ except for us.  I always believed there would be time for that “later” ~ you know, when the kids are older and don’t need so much from me.  Little did I understand the stresses of parenting older teens and young adult children.  The mental and emotional angst can be just as demanding (or more) as raising young children, especially when our children aren’t following the path we always planned they would.

Where’s your oxygen mask?